Glamorous Sarah – who is Mates Condoms' sexpert and editor of Scarlet magazine – will be on hand to answer your sexual dilemmas and give your love life a boost with her sexy ideas.

Imagine how you’d feel if he was in your position and didn’t consequently confess that your man (a) cheated on you (with your own relative!) and (b) was possibly gay.

Depending on his reaction (which will largely depend on how much he cares about this girl), you might also want to confess that you have feelings for her.

But even if he’s happy to let you have her, do you really want to get involved with a woman who would cheat on her partner with a member of their family? And would getting together with this girl make your brother uncomfortable? Be sensible, not selfish. This girl sounds like bad news.

During sex you can stimulate your clitoris with a small bullet or finger vibe, or you can ask your man to wear a Mates Intensify Vibrating Pleasure Ring at the base of his penis, positioning the attached vibrator against your clitoris.

Vibrations are often the quickest route to orgasm for women, but the longer the build-up to climax, the more powerful it can be. So open your mind as well as your legs.

Explain why you’re not feeling terribly hot right now and reassure him that he’s still as sexy as ever and it’s nothing to do with him.

Also, while you’re waiting for your Mojo to return, make sure you maintain a physical bond with your man with back rubs (I bet you could do with one!), holding hands and cuddling up on the sofa – and kiss him everyday.

When we’re cooing over kids, we can forget to pucker up for our partners, but scientific studies show that a passionate snog can boost desire.

People who enjoy spanking do so because it’s seen as kinky, and breaking sexual taboos is a psychological turn on; spanking also brings blood to the surface of the skin making it more sensitive to touch.

If after several attempts spanking doesn’t turn you on, don’t fake it. Tell him it doesn’t work for you. Men often only execute this move because they’ve seen it done in adult films where actresses are paid to look like they’re having as much fun as a monkey in a banana tree. I’m sure he won’t mind giving it up.

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